Merriam Webster: “circumstances at a certain moment : a critical, trying, or unusual state of affairs : PROBLEM”
“An example of situation is having to decide between two jobs.” ~yourdictionary.com
My children and I are not a “situation”
For you to come at me with “what a horrible situation you are in” is Incredibly Insulting.
You are talking about our every day LIVES.
You are making a statement that implies we are something that needs Handled. Controlled. Fixed.
We don’t need fixed.
We are not broken.
We don’t need anyone to step into our lives to “fix our situation”
We don’t need your pity because You View Our lives as a Problem.
Some horrible, traumatic things happened to myself and my children.
Everyone has their bad stuff in life.
Everyone has gone through some shit.
Yet you don’t go around talking to everyone like you do to us.
“What a horrible situation to be in”
“With the situation she is in…”
“Well, your home situation is less than ideal”
You mean MY LIFE?!
Yeah, Thanks for that.
Don’t get me wrong, I love hearing how great I am doing with my boys and how awesome they are (just like any other parent). I will take the compliments all day long. If you are only giving them to make yourself feel better because of my “situation” save your breath. Call it “widow intuition” if you will, but we can tell you’re insincere. And if you’re here to tell me what a horrible job I am doing, unless you are truly sincere with concern for me and my boys, I don’t care what judgments you have about me.
Yes, a horrific event happened in our past that we deal with every day.
It is not a problem for someone to fix.
It is not a new or individual “situation” every day.
It IS INGRAINED IN OUR EVERY DAY.
IT IS OUR LIVES.
And We are Happy.
We are THRIVING.
Pretty sure the only “situation” you need to worry about is how to get my foot out of your ass if you don’t shut your mouth.
MAKE GOOD CHOICES.
~Love & Light, Sarah