Today is Valentine’s Day. I like it because my social media feeds are filled with thoughts of Love and Kindness. People take the opportunity the day allows to spread Positivity and Goodness into the world. It is special for my children because they get to exchange valentines with friends and get candy. It is special for some adults, but I don’t know why.
Valentine’s Day is a day where we are told to tell the person/people we Love that we Love them, but really it’s just another day that ends in “Y”. Here’s my question…
Why are we waiting until one specific day of the year to tell people we Love them?!
Why can’t we do this every day?
Why do we have to shower someone with gifts, flowers that are gonna die, jewelry, and cards Today??
Holidays can be fun, but this one is pretty silly. I didn’t know the origin of Valentine’s day, so I looked it up. This day started as a festival which “included fertility rites and the pairing off of women with men by lottery.” Not exactly something I want to celebrate. I like being able to pick my partner, thank you very much! The Christian stories of the day’s origins are pretty vague and mysterious, but do include a man doing good deeds sometimes in the name of Love. The same article in the link above also mentions that Christians placed this holiday in the middle of February to “Christianize” the original Roman/Pagan festival it is said to be based on. Again, I’m all for celebrating Love, but I am not clear on why this ever became a thing.
I have always been a person who believes we should share our Love with one another whenever we feel it, no matter what the day. Who doesn’t want to be told they are important to a person? That they make a positive difference in someone’s life? And how GrEaT does it feel when you are being told that by someone else?
On top of being a very materialistic, unnecessary holiday (in my opinion), this day tends to make people feel like crap. Single people feel lonely because they don’t have a valentine. Coupled people are filled with anxiety leading up to the holiday because of the gifts or plans they want to or don’t want to do.
“We said we weren’t getting each other anything, but will they get me something anyways and then I should have gotten them something too?”
“What if this gift isn’t what they wanted?”
“What if the restaurant is not good?”
“What if I FORGOT it’s Valentine’s Day?!”
There is a lot of pressure on everyone for this holiday. Granted, most people put this pressure on themselves or allow it to be put onto them, but it is greatly fueled by society.
I know a lot of folks have started celebrating Galentine’s Day. This holiday falls on Valentine’s Day Eve (February 13th) and celebrates your relationships with your women friends, “ladies celebrating ladies”, but again, why are we excluding the men from this equation? There are plenty of single guys out there too! Did I miss the Day of the Dude holiday?
Parks & Rec is one of my all-time favorite shows, but did y’all know there is also a Treat Yo’ Self Day we could all be participating in?! It is October 13th and it is a holiday I can definitely get behind!
I am ALL FOR a holiday that celebrates LoVe. I LoVe Love! Love is my favorite feeling! I simply don’t understand why we need an official day to share it. I feel like it does more harm than good.
Tell people you Love that you Love them EVERY DAY. Or at least every time you can! Why not? …It’s okay, I’ll wait for a good answer to that…..
Tell the ones you Love that you Love them while you can.
Tell them you Love them any day that ends in “Y”
Happy Valentine’s Day
MAKE GOOD CHOICES.
~Love & Light, Sarah
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