You put things away. Scenarios that happen in your life, situations you have to deal with. You put them in a box, wrap it up, tape it with the strongest duct tape you can find, wrap it in bubble wrap, tape that, super glue it for good measure & label it DONE. Do Not Open. No Need. Complete: Closure Achieved. This, I am at peace with.
Then something happens. Things change. You find something out that could or could not change everything in that box. What do you do? The box is clearly closed. Marked Complete: Closure Achieved! Yet, this information is just sitting there. Something you now know that you didn’t know before that would have possibly changed the closure/completion of this situation in your head and in your life. UGH. I guess we have 2 choices at this point.
- Remind ourselves that we have already come to peace with this situation. We taped, glued & closed the box shut. Put this information into the “no longer need to know” file of our mind, keep the box closed & move on with our bad self.
- Grab a knife, scissors, anything remotely sharp really & tear into that box. Rip out all off the bubble wrap, tape & stuffing, pulling that old situation out & adding to it. Ripping off the fresh bandaid and letting that wound seep out in all its new freshness.
What are we to do? How do you decide? I don’t know. I have no freaking clue at all.
Recently, I had this happen to me. Here is what I did.
I immediately freaked out. Psyched myself out to the point where I knew I needed a second opinion, maybe a third. I went to text the first person who came to mind. Nope. That person is new, doesn’t know the situation well enough. 2nd person: Very good person to go to. I could have definitely gone to this person with this problem & they would have talked me through it, BUT….also a newer person in my life. Doesn’t know the situation & I didn’t feel like explaining it to try and help them understand. Ok, 3rd person, 4th, 5th, 6th, etc… I went through the list. The 3rd person is actually who I contacted for help after considering around 7-10 people. The rest of the people knew the situation, but may have been to close to it or are too emotional or I don’t talk to them anymore, so I went with the person who I knew would be honest with me, tell me if I was being crazy, support me and give me good advice.
This person talked to me about it and they also had plans to deal with the situation from their end. It made me feel a little better. Enough to be able to sleep at least.
I have decided to keep the box closed. I am completely at peace with my closure on this situation. The box may get opened in the future because this information and situation isn’t over for everyone involved. At that point, if the box gets opened again, I will deal with it however I decide at that time.
There are so many things to focus on in life and it is up to us to decide what we focus on. I urge you to think long and hard considering all outcomes before returning to and opening a closed box. Sometimes it is necessary, I understand that. Please be mindful of what you focus on. You control your Mindset, Actions and Your Life.
And if you decide to open the box, ask for help. We were not put on this earth to do life alone and there are plenty of Loving people willing to be there for you and help.
Your vibe attracts your tribe.
Things change. Sometimes it sucks.
Choose Happy Anyways.
MAKE GOOD CHOICES.
~Love & Light, Sarah