That guy who always makes you feel guilty for going out with your friends, so you come home early only to get shaded or yelled at the rest of the night. The same guy who doesn’t even run it by you and proceeds to go hang out with his friends until all hours of the next morning and expects you to be able to sleep at night…That’s not the guy.
That guy that you took home from the bar, had sex with and had to drive back to his house after because he has no license and a broken down car…That’s not the guy.
That guy you think is super cute and wonder how he is in bed despite being 15 years his senior. The one who entertains your silly flirting because it makes him feel good to be wanted…That’s not the guy.
That guy you have to make deals with in order to get what you want; to be able to do what you want to do in life…That’s not the guy.
That guy who talks a lot to you over messenger and is super sweet, but won’t let you tag him on any posts. The same guy who makes you drive an hour to have lunch with him, an hour and a half to hang out with you, screws you and then leaves…That’s not the guy.
That guy who never carves out time and plans a date for you, but expects you to drop everything and show up as soon as he texts you…That’s not the guy.
That guy who thinks it’s “great that you are such an awesome mom” with your kids, but refuses to ever come over and hang out with you and them and only wants to hang out with you alone…That’s not the guy.
That guy who you think is a little crazy, so would probably be a good no-strings-attached lay, but come to find out he is A LOT crazy and in a current, really messed up relationship…That’s not the guy.
That guy who you’ve flirted with for over 5 years who is still finding himself too and totally on at least one of the same wavelengths as you, but is also obsessed with his body, other people’s bodies, working out, partying and who isn’t comfortable at all with himself…That’s not the guy.
That guy that is really nice to you, friendly to everyone and seems to have no agenda…That might be the guy.
That guy who seems to keep to himself, but at the same time is getting along with and talking to nearly everyone…That might be the guy.
That guy with a genuine smile. The guy who doesn’t smile all the time, but sometimes when he catches you looking, you get see it…That’s probably the guy.
That guy who knows he doesn’t know how to respond to everything you are going through, but at least listens and lets you know he is there.
That guy who has been alone a lot, not because he couldn’t get a date, but because he’d rather spend time alone than with the wrong person.
That guy who wants to talk to you, learn everything about you, share about himself with you and is willing to talk anytime, anywhere, for any amount of time.
That guy who listens to what you are struggling with and doesn’t automatically tell you what you want to hear to make you feel better, but instead gives you much needed, helpful advice that will actually help you fix your problem.
That guy who was perfectly happy in his life just the way it was when he met you.
That guy who shows up for every single thing he says he is going to show up for.
That guy whose people are just as amazing as he is and as soon as you meet them it feels like you’ve found a family you never knew you always needed.
That guy who texts you randomly in the middle of the day to say “I love you” or “Thinking of you”
That guy who always tells you to be careful and let him know when you are home.
That guy you can go to a party with, hang out with friends with, sit and watch your kids go crazy at your house with or lay on the couch with. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you are together.
That guy who lets you be all spinny outty and calms you with his voice and whose mountain bear hug is like an all-encompassing gravity blanket for you.
The guy who doesn’t play games. The guy who treats you like the Queen you are. The guy who never makes you feel icky. The guy who helps you make good decisions and doesn’t make you feel bad for wanting to make the wrong ones. The guy who always makes sure you know you are loved….That’s the guy.
Be That Guy.
Find That Guy.
Don’t Settle. You Are Amazing & You Are Worth It.
MAKE GOOD CHOICES.
~Love & Light, Sarah